How To Believe In Yourself As A Writer

An award-winning journalist and bestselling author gives practical, relatable advice on how to believe in yourself as a writer.

By Natasha Khullar Relph

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A writer’s life is full of rejection, dejection, and questions about whether or not their work is even any good to begin with. Let’s consider how to believe in yourself.

I’ve become pretty immune to rejections when they arrive for queries, but I’m still learning how to deal with book rejections, criticisms of my fiction, or ideas that I believe in but may go nowhere.

So how do you believe in yourself as a writer? How do you know with certainty that you really do have talent and skill, when everything in your career seems to come ricocheting back at you at full speed?

Here are some ways.

1. Go back to basics

There was a time, before that first rejection letter, that first critique, and that first spasm of doubt, when you believed, totally believed, that you could be a writer. You believed you could live the dream. What made you come to writing in the first place? What made you so sure you’d succeed? What changed?

Go back to the source of your beliefs and stay there awhile. Allow yourself childlike dreams of success.

2. Give yourself easy wins

A couple of months ago, I wrote about easy wins in my newsletter and was amazed at the response. I got so many emails from people who had to remind themselves that once in a while, they had to aim low so they could experience that tiny bit of success.

Easy wins are one of the best ways to start believing in yourself again. Go get one now. If you’re lacking belief in your abilities, get an easy win. Then, reward yourself when you get it.

3. Make it chase after you

You know when you go after an easy win and even they reject you? It sucks. It royally, completely BLOWS. You’re already feeling low and then this editor at a $100-a-piece market that you don’t even respect doesn’t even bother responding, or worse, rejects you. That kind of rejection can make a battle-hardy freelancer cry.

What should you do? Disconnect. Take a break from it all. Don’t write for two weeks, or three, or four, if you can afford not to. Let inspiration come back begging. It will, I promise, just when you’re getting used to your life of leisure.

You know that thing about letting go of someone you love and if they love you back, they’re yours forever or something? Yeah, that.

4. Trust your gut

You hear all these stories of people who got rejected year after year and refused to give up. Despite what agents, publishers, other people said they still stuck it out. They went to battle for their book, their idea, their whatever. Eventually, they succeeded. And it’s easy to think, yeah, I would have, too, have you seen that book? Of course that was worth sticking with. But when it’s your own work, you question. You go, well, maybe they’re right. There can’t possibly be a market for this sort of thing. Can there?

You must trust your gut. You must believe in yourself. You’re especially susceptible to self doubt if, like me, you write for a living and give a lot of thought to markets and readers. It’s sometimes tempting to be a cold hard businessperson and say, well, this idea sucks, let’s try something else. It’s harder to say, no, wait, I believe in this. Let’s try again. And again. And again.

5. Practice

The more you practice believing in yourself, the bigger that belief becomes. And you should try it with other aspects of your life as well. Believe that you’re a good parent. Believe that you’re a wonderful life partner. Believe that you’re a thoughtful, communicative daughter even if your mother insists you’re not.

Practice believing in yourself, as silly as that may sound.

6. Enlist help

Sometimes you think you suck and there is, in that moment, no changing that. So call over your girlfriends, your mother, your best mate from college, or your wife, and ask them to believe for you.

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