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How To Believe In Yourself As A Writer

by Natasha Khullar Relph

You don’t need blind confidence to believe in yourself as a writer. You need proof, perspective, and a few tricks for when the doubt hits hard.


A woman sitting in her home office, stretching her arms in happiness, the power that comes when you believe in yourself.

There’s no shortage of advice out there for writers—how to plot, how to publish, how to grow your email list by 400% overnight. But the hardest part? Believing you’re actually good enough to do it all in the first place.

Self-doubt is basically a rite of passage in creative work. If you’ve never questioned whether you have what it takes, congrats—you might be a cyborg. For the rest of us, especially those forging nontraditional paths as freelancers, entrepreneurs, or self-taught creatives, imposter syndrome can feel like a full-time job.

Even successful people—yes, even bestselling authors and award-winning journalists—wrestle with the same negative self-talk. The difference? They’ve learned to believe in themselves anyway.

Let’s talk about how to actually do that.

Table of Contents Hide
1 What does it mean to believe in yourself as a writer?
2 What causes writers to lose confidence?
3 How lack of self-belief impacts your writing career
4 How to start believing in yourself again
5 Daily practices that strengthen self-belief
6 What believing in yourself actually looks like
7 When you’re struggling: What not to do
8 You don’t have to be certain. You just have to keep going.

What does it mean to believe in yourself as a writer?

It doesn’t mean thinking you’re the best writer in the room.

It means trusting that your voice, your perspective, and your weird little brain deserve to be in the room in the first place.

Self-belief isn’t arrogance—it’s grounded in self-awareness, self-worth, and the willingness to grow. Even the most successful writers wrestle with doubt. The difference? They keep writing anyway.

To believe in yourself as a writer is to:

  • Trust your creative instincts, even when the work feels wobbly
  • Choose growth over perfection
  • Rewrite from a place of curiosity, not shame

It’s self-efficacy. It’s self-love. It’s the quiet decision to keep going, even when no one’s watching. And especially when the inner critic won’t shut up.

Because believing in yourself doesn’t mean the doubt disappears—it means you’ve decided to write anyway.

What causes writers to lose confidence?

You don’t wake up one day and forget how to believe in yourself. It’s usually death by a thousand tiny (or not-so-tiny) paper cuts.

Here’s what chips away at that confidence:

  • Rejection: Not just from editors or agents, but from readers, peers, and sometimes… yourself. After enough no’s, it gets harder to try again.
  • Comparison traps: Social media is a highlight reel, not a full story. But it doesn’t always feel that way when everyone else seems to be landing book deals and TED talks while you’re revising Chapter 3 for the fifth time.
  • Curated wins everywhere: When all you see are polished drafts, glowing reviews, and viral posts, it’s easy to believe you’re falling behind.
  • A harsh inner critic: Maybe it started as a parent, teacher, or boss who didn’t believe in you. Eventually, their voice became yours. And now you’re the one saying “This isn’t good enough.”
  • A values disconnect: When your own behavior doesn’t align with the kind of writer—or human being—you want to be, it erodes self-confidence. (Skipping writing sessions, breaking promises to yourself, giving up too soon.)

The result? A spiral of negative emotions, dwindling self-esteem, and a constant fight to maintain a positive mindset.

But you can rebuild it. With daily affirmations, a little visualization, and the decision to try again, belief can return.

Because if you don’t believe in yourself, who else will?

How lack of self-belief impacts your writing career

You can be wildly talented. Incredibly driven. Full of ideas. But if you don’t believe in yourself, none of that gets very far. Here’s what starts to happen when self-doubt is running the show:

  • You hesitate to start: You second-guess the idea before it even hits the page. You get stuck in research, in prep, in perfectionism—because nothing feels “ready enough.”
  • You ghost your own projects: That novel draft? The newsletter? The pitch you saved last month? They collect digital dust while you wait for confidence to show up first.
  • You play small: You don’t submit to the publication you really want. You lower your rates. You tell yourself you’re not “that kind of writer”—so you stop trying.
  • You treat rejection as confirmation: Instead of one editor’s “no,” it becomes your personal narrative. See? This was a bad idea. I’m not good enough. I knew it.
  • You burn out faster: When every word feels like a battle, it’s no wonder you’re tired. It’s not just the writing—it’s the emotional labor of constantly questioning your worth while doing it.

Lack of belief doesn’t just stall your progress—it rewrites your entire creative identity. It narrows your career options. It keeps you circling the same chapter, waiting for proof you’re allowed to continue.

📌 Pro Tip: No one’s coming to hand you that permission slip. You have to write your way toward it.

How to start believing in yourself again

Confidence isn’t a lightning bolt. It’s a slow build. A quiet, daily decision to keep going—even when it feels like you’re faking it. Here’s how to begin rebuilding that belief:

  • Start small: A growth mindset isn’t about massive leaps—it’s about showing up. Write for 10 minutes. Hit send on the pitch. Celebrate the tiny wins.
  • Track your growth: Self-reflection isn’t just journaling in the moonlight. Look at how far you’ve come. Who were you six months ago? What writing habits have changed? What new skills are part of your toolkit?
  • Surround yourself with cheerleaders: Not everyone deserves a backstage pass to your creative life. Seek out mentors, friends, or writing groups who reflect your belief back to you when you can’t find it yourself.
  • Rewrite the script: Positive self-talk isn’t cheesy—it’s neurological reprogramming. When the inner critic says, This is trash, you get to say, It’s a first draft, and that’s allowed. Repeat until it sticks.
  • Write badly. On purpose: Believing in yourself means loving yourself enough to write the messy version first. To try. To trust the process more than the outcome.

📌 Pro Tip: The more you show up for your writing, the more your belief will catch up. It always does.

Daily practices that strengthen self-belief

Self-belief isn’t something you either have or don’t. It’s something you do. Daily. Deliberately. In the smallest, most powerful ways. Here are a few practices to help you build it:

  • Create a writing routine that works for your brain: Whether it’s early mornings with tea or late-night bursts on your Notes app, design a rhythm that protects your mental health and supports your creative flow.
  • Step out of your comfort zone—on purpose: Pitch the editor. Share the piece. Submit the weird essay. When you take small risks consistently, you build trust in your own resilience.
  • Practice consistency as self-respect: Writing daily (or weekly, or whatever your rhythm is) isn’t just about output—it’s about honoring your identity as a writer. Even when the work feels clumsy.
  • Rewrite the story you tell yourself: Journal. Reflect. Notice where your inner critic’s script runs the show—and edit it like you would any rough draft.
  • Anchor your worth outside the work: You’re not just a writer. You’re a whole human being. You don’t need a byline to be valuable, or a book deal to be worthy.

📌 Pro Tip: Belief doesn’t require perfection. It requires showing up. Again and again, until your actions reinforce the story: I can do this. I am doing this.

What believing in yourself actually looks like

Self-belief isn’t loud. It doesn’t always look like swagger or perfectly color-coded confidence. Sometimes it’s quiet. Sometimes it’s messy. But it’s always yours.

When you believe in yourself, here’s what it actually looks like:

  • You keep going—even when it’s hard: Especially when it’s hard. You show up to the page, the pitch, or the rewrite, even if yesterday knocked you flat.
  • You write despite the doubt: The inner critic is loud, the deadline is looming, your brain is playing the “what if I fail” game on loop—and you still write the sentence.
  • You make the brave choice: You hit publish. You ask for more money. You say yes to the scary opportunity, even if your hands are shaking while you do it.
  • You own your work, your growth, and your power: You stop waiting for someone else to believe in you first—and decide to do it yourself.

📌 Pro Tip: Believing in yourself doesn’t mean you never question your path. It means you trust yourself enough to walk it anyway.

When you’re struggling: What not to do

Everyone hits low points. But when your confidence dips, it’s easy to fall into patterns that make things worse. If you’re stuck, here’s what not to do:

  1. Spiral in negative thoughts: You are not your worst day. You’re not your inbox, your analytics, or the pitch that didn’t land. When the spiral starts, interrupt it. Talk it out. Write it out. Walk it off. Your well-being is too important to hand over to one bad mood or a single rejection.
  1. Isolate: This is how shame festers—when you convince yourself no one else struggles like you do. Spoiler: everyone does. Reach out. Ask for help. Lean on a writing group, a friend, or even a mentor. Let people remind you of who you are when you forget.
  1. Wait for the perfect moment: There’s no “perfect” energy, perfect draft, or perfect sign from the universe that tells you it’s finally time to act. Start now. However messily. However imperfectly. The decision-making gets easier once you’re in motion.

Your ability to love yourself through the messy parts—to keep going when the inner critic is loudest—isn’t just a self-improvement strategy. It’s how you change your life, own your voice, and write your own damn story.

You don’t have to be certain. You just have to keep going.

Believing in yourself isn’t some magical state you arrive at one day—it’s a muscle you build. One messy draft, bold pitch, and brave decision at a time.

It doesn’t require certainty. It requires momentum. A willingness to keep moving, even when the doubts get loud and the path feels unclear.

So show up. Build the belief as you build the work. The clarity, confidence, and results will come.

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About Natasha Khullar Relph

Natasha Khullar Relph is the founder of The Wordling and an award-winning journalist and author with bylines in The New York Times, TIME CNN, BBC, ABC News, Ms. Marie Claire, Vogue, and more.

Natasha has mentored over 1,000 writers, helping them break into dream publications and build six-figure careers. She is the author of Shut Up and Write: The No-Nonsense, No B.S. Guide to Getting Words on the Page and several other books.

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